Loving Children with Disabilities in the Church

Loving Children with Disabilities in the Church

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me…”
—and that includes every child.

In today’s classrooms (and churches), more and more families are navigating life with disabilities. According to the CDC, about 1 in 6 children in the United States aged 3–17 has a developmental disability, such as ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, cerebral palsy, or learning delays. That number is growing as awareness and diagnoses increase.
📊 Source: CDC – Developmental Disabilities in Children

These statistics aren’t just numbers—they represent real children and families in our congregations. And, each of these children, regardless of their needs or abilities is an image bearer who is worthy of respect. As the body of Christ, we have a sacred opportunity to reflect Jesus' love by creating spaces of dignity, joy, and welcome for every child. And the sad truth is that there families are less likely to attend church - one statistic saying that a family who has a child with autism is 84% less likely to attend church than a typical family. WOW! 

I recently talked with a friend of mine who is living out the gospel every day as she parents a child with disabilities. She shared highs and lows, struggles and encouragements and was kind enough to offer a few thoughts when it comes to the church and children's ministry. At this point, her experience is limited to the nursery, but these thoughts easily apply in all areas of children's ministry. 

 

Tips for Volunteers

  • Greet families warmly and ask good questions.
    Try saying, “We’re so glad you’re here! Is there anything important we need to know today?” This communicates care and opens the door for helpful communication.

  • Know the room rules—and know when flexibility is love.
    Room policies (like no outside snacks) help maintain safety, but volunteers should know when exceptions are appropriate—like accommodating feeding challenges or sensory needs. Check with your supervisor when unsure and work toward drafting a policy that will serve all of the families in your church well.

  • Every child is different. Every child matters.
    Some babies may cry less than others. Some children may not express themselves in typical ways. Children with mobility delays may move less, but still want to be included. Take the time to observe and engage them meaningfully.

  • Remember: understanding often comes before expression.
    Many children understand far more than they can communicate. Assume competence. Speak kindly. Invite them in.

  • Lead with love.
    A little love goes a long way. Even small gestures of inclusion—like offering a toy, singing their favorite song, or saying their name—help children feel seen and valued.


Tips for Parents

  • Talk with a supervisor before class starts.
    If you’re nervous about leaving your child or need specific support, don’t hesitate to speak up. We’re here to partner with you.

  • It’s okay to explore options.
    You might need a dedicated helper to stay with your child, or maybe just a shorter visit to class to see how it goes. There’s no one-size-fits-all plan.

  • Understand the room rules too.
    This helps everyone work together respectfully—especially when navigating accommodations for allergies, safety, or communication.

  • Try it out—no pressure.
    It’s okay to test a class for 30 minutes. If it doesn’t go smoothly, there’s no shame. We want your child to thrive—and we’re learning together.

Our kids with delays benefit so much from being with their peers. You got this.


Helpful Resources for Churches

As you begin building or strengthening your special needs ministry, here are a few excellent resources to guide your team:



    Final Thoughts

    Every child has a place in the body of Christ. When we model patient love and intentional inclusion, we reflect the heart of our Savior. Let’s be the kind of church where no child feels like an exception, and every parent feels supported.

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